Is It Wrong to Date or Marry Someone who Isn’t a Christian?

"Do not be unequally yoked"--what does that really mean? Is it actually wrong or even a sin to date or marry someone who isn't a Christian? The answer might not be what you think. Click here to read more!

Ah, youth group. I went to youth group all throughout high school, and it was pretty great. I looked forward to Tuesday nights, where I got to play cool games (i.e. playing football but actually just trying not to get killed by all the guys who took it way too seriously), eating yummy snacks (except for Fear Factor night…still trying to suppress that memory), and having great worship (always unforeseen; sloppy wet wasn’t even an option). Heck, we even had some great Bible studies.

At youth, things like character, dating and our relationships with God were all among the topics discussed. It’s not much of a surprise that when we were talking about dating, we were warned against dating a non-Christian—or being “unequally yoked”. As a matter of fact, I think most Christians will advise you not to date someone who isn’t a believer…myself included.

But what does the Bible say about dating/marrying a non-believer? Since the Bible doesn’t really discuss dating (it wasn’t really a thing back then) but it discusses marriage, I’ll look at this issue from a marriage perspective. This applies to dating as well, since dating is usually done with an intention of marriage.

When you hear “don’t marry someone who isn’t a Christian”, this verse is usually brought in for back-up:

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? (2 Cor. 6:14)

Although this verse seems to be condemning the practice of a believer marrying a non-believer, there is no mention of marriage in this whole chapter. This verse is usually used out of context. The heading of this section in my Bible says, “The Temple of the Living God”. Paul goes on to remind the Corinthians that God wants us to be holy and separate for Him. This verse could be interpreted as forbidding any type of close relationship with those outside the church. Why is it that so many people use it only in the context of marriage?

Well, because people take things out of context to prove their own point. (It happens. Context is important when understanding God’s Word.)

So: is marrying someone who isn’t a Christian a sin? What does the Bible say?

The Bible gives many different instructions about marriage, some of which are not negotiable. Divorce is a sin in God’s eyes (with the exception of some circumstances, such as abuse). 1 Corinthians 7:10 – 11 says this:

To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.

That’s pretty clear. If you continue reading in 1 Cor. 7:12 – 16, Paul says that he is of the opinion that if a believer is married to an unbeliever, the unbeliever can make the choice to stay or be separated.

So what about a believer marrying an unbeliever? The answer is simply this: God does not say that we as Christians are required to marry believers. However, He does give us many other guidelines for marriage that we are to follow, whether or not we are married to a believer. A choice like who we marry can have a big effect on us from an eternal perspective.

The first thing God ever says about marriage is this:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Gen. 2:24)

Whoever you marry, you will become one flesh. You are no longer two, but one under God. That doesn’t change because you don’t marry someone who isn’t a Christian.

Paul also gives this instruction as he concludes his principles for marriage:

Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches. (1 Cor. 7:17)

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We will not be justified based on who we marry, or anything we do in this life. We cannot do anything to earn God’s favour. When we stand before God on Judgment Day, He will not give us brownie points for marrying a Christian. That being said, we can’t go to God and say, “I know I didn’t live my life fully for You, but the person I married prevented me—it’s not my fault.” We are will be accountable for ourselves, no matter who we chose to spend our lives with.

Personally, I have chosen to marry a Christian someday. I have several reasons for choosing this, and none of them are because the Bible says to.

My relationship with Jesus is the most important relationship in my life.

Christ comes first—even though I’ll be the first to tell you that I fail at this daily. He is my One & Only, and my relationship with Him comes first. Since He is the most important thing in my life, I want someone who can share in that with me. I don’t want to marry someone who is going to distract me from my relationship with Christ, but encourage me in it. I want someone who won’t be jealous of my relationship with him and who won’t pull me away from my relationship with God.

Marriage is the closest relationship I will ever have with someone on Earth.

On this side of heaven, my marriage will be the closest relationship I have with another human being. That’s a lot to invest your life in. I want someone who has the same foundation as I do. On my own, I can be as strong as I want, and I can marry a really strong person. But if our strength comes from different places, how strong will we be as a couple?

I want to marry for reasons other than my happiness.

I’m not getting married just to be happy. I’ll marry someone I want to raise my kids. What if I get married and have kids and then I’m not around to raise them? I want to marry someone I can trust my kids’ spiritual education with. I might not always be around to bring them to Sunday school or youth group. Even if both parents are involved, will kids grow up following Christ if they don’t see both parents setting this example? Sadly, the answer is usually no.

I want my marriage to glorify God.

When I get married, I want my relationship to be a tool God can use to build His kingdom. That’s not to say that you can’t honor God if your spouse isn’t a Christian, but I want to be married to someone who can share in that mission with me. I want my marriage to point to the relationship Christ has with his Church. It won’t be able to do that if my future spouse and I aren’t on the same page spiritually.

All this being said, I don’t think it’s a wise idea to marry someone who isn’t a Christian. Having the same morals or values as you isn’t enough. Is that person actively pursuing God, with or without you?

When your eyes are set on Christ and your heart is in the right place, you won’t even want to look at anyone who isn’t also focused on him.

Although God doesn’t demand that we marry a Christian, I do firmly believe that it is the best thing to marry someone who can share in the grace and love and mission of Christ and his Church. When marriage is focused on Christ, it is beautiful. It points back to God and His love for us. There are so many blessings available for us when we marry someone who loves Christ and is dedicated to following him.

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Things Guys Want to Tell Girls

Have you ever wondered what guys REALLY think about drama, your emotions and how they communicate? You may be surprised! Click here to read more.

I think most of us can agree that girls are more emotionally complex than guys. This doesn’t mean that one is better than the other—God made men and women—but we are incredibly different in everything. The way we feel (yes, guys have feelings), think, act and interpret the world around us are very different.

Girls want to feel understood by guys. We need emotional connection, and that means that guys need to be able to understand us. But are we missing something when it comes to relating with guys?

I’m not saying girls need to start following the NHL draft picks or become immensely interested in hunting or start man-grunting like Tim the Tool Man. But I am asking this: how can we expect guys to put in all kinds of effort to understand us when we put no effort into understanding them? Sometimes we expect men to cater to us when we don’t put any effort into speaking their language.

I asked some of the guys in my life what they want girls to know about guys…what they would say if they could say anything to girls without the girls getting mad. Complete honesty.

I told them it could be anything—girls cry too much, guys don’t care about makeup, guys hate drama, etc. The guys I asked are ages 16 – 20 and all have different personalities. These points are the guys’ words, not mine. I might add something after a point, but for the most part, it’s what they themselves wrote.

Guys absolutely hate drama.

One guy put it this way:

We’re more relaxed/laid back, so don’t get upset at us if we don’t care [about drama].”

Another added,

It’s not their job to please other people; not everything is a crisis.

A third guy said,

Yes, guys absolutely hate drama; it drives us crazy! Sometimes a little drama just happens, that’s tolerable…

They aren’t saying that nothing matters. They’re saying that there’s a difference between something serious and something that’s just drama. Sometimes, we tend to overreact to the little things instead of judging if the thing is worth getting worked up over. We need to take a step back and decide if it’s actually a big deal or if we’re making it a big deal.

If you listen to a guy tell a story then listen to a girl tell a story, you’ll notice a big difference. Guys tell exactly what happened—“Jim walked into a wall and then fell down.” Girls tell what happened, plus how they felt, plus how Jim felt, plus how Sally reacted when she told her the story.

Guys are just more factually-based. If you’re explaining every emotion you experienced, they’re probably going to tune out pretty quick. However, if you’re explaining what actually happened instead of what you think happened or what you felt happened, they’re more likely to get what you’re saying.

We still care.

When you are upset, we don’t always understand or notice at first, but we still care.

Us guys don’t care as much as you girls do.

Ladies, guys do care. None of the guys I spoke to said they don’t care about girls. They just said they didn’t care as much or about everything. Girls get emotionally involved in everything that happens; it’s the way we are. Guys don’t invest their emotions into as much as we do; they aren’t wired to have an emotion behind everything.

When it comes to telling guys how we feel, we shouldn’t hide everything from guys or be less than honest about how we’re feeling (saying “I’m fine” when you’re really not isn’t helping. It’s confusing) but we do need to know how to tell guys how we’re feeling in concise, matter-of-fact ways.

Guys don’t try to send subtle signals.

When guys are nice (holding doors open, etc.), they are truly just doing it to be nice…being nice to a lady is often taken for flirting when in reality, I’m just being nice.

When guys ask to hang out, it literally means hang out. Nothing else. Play some cards or the Wii. We just want to have fun and get to know them better, that’s all.

Sometimes, when we like a guy, we try to send signals that suggest to the guy we’re interested—without actually saying we’re interested. Guys don’t do that. If they’re interested, they’ll tell you or make it really obvious. Guys want to be able to be friends with girls without it turning into a “thing” or being accused of liking a girl.

We need to realize that not every guy who wants to be our friend wants to date us, and that’s okay. It’s important to have friendships without any weird pressure to potentially have a relationship. I’ve enjoyed so many great friendships with guys just because I didn’t assume they were interested in me!

We like listening better, but guys want to talk too.

It is easy enough for us to listen to anything you want to talk to us about, but a lot harder for us to reciprocate and talk about ourselves.

Guys want to talk too.

Assuming you’re having a great conversation with a guy and not just dumping emotional junk on him, is it okay to still talk lots? Yes! Talking to guys is not bad. It’s how you talk to them. They like to talk, too. However, don’t expect a guy to be as talkative as you. Some guys are, but most aren’t. It’s a lot easier for a guy to listen to you about how you feel than for him to talk about how he feels.

But when you’re actually in a relationship with a guy, the girl still need some emotional connection—and that doesn’t come from talking about football. So when you want to find out how a guy feels about a certain thing, don’t ask him “How do you feel about this?” Guys often don’t know how they feel because they just don’t analyze their emotional responses the way girls do. But guys can usually tell you their opinion or what they think. Give them a chance to talk! Ask what they think. Listen when they start to talk. If they aren’t comfortable, don’t push it. Guys will talk to girls they feel safe with.

Go with the flow.

Just go with the flow. Not everything needs to be controlled. Nothing drives me crazier than when someone tries to control literally everything. Guys love just going with the flow; maybe making broad plans, but nothing specific.

As a type-A personality firstborn, I like to feel in control of my space and my plans. But a lot of the time, guys don’t have a plan and they’re okay with that. Sometimes we girls need to loosen up a bit and be okay with that too. The world won’t fall apart if you don’t know every detail. Having a plan is a good thing, but sometimes we can get a little too caught up in it.

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Things I Wish I Knew before I Started Dating

Dating can be fun, but there can be tough things too. There's lots to learn and grow from. Click here to read seven things I learned while dating!

I started dating when I was in the last semester of high school. I’ve only dated one guy and I’ve been with him now for just over two and a half years. Since I was pretty naïve when we started dating, I’ve learned a lot about relationships in the last couple years. This isn’t going to be a list of things I completely messed up on, though I have certainly made a lot of mistakes. Rather, these are things that I was surprised to find and thought I was the only one dealing with these issues. I thought I’d take the time to discuss some of the things I wish someone had told me before I started dating.

Christian girls have to deal with temptation too.

Chances are that if you really like a guy, you’re attracted to him, whether that’s physically or not. When I started dating William, I had this preconceived notion that since I was a Christian, I would be kind of “protected” from any temptation. We were a Christian couple focused on Jesus, so temptation wouldn’t touch us.

Ha.

I think that Satan will try even harder to tempt Christians—especially young ones who have lots of hormones. He tempted Jesus, too (Luke 4:1 – 13). Everyone is different, but don’t think that just because you’re both Christians you will be sheltered from temptations. Be prepared that you will face temptation, and be armed with prayer.

Your boyfriend is not your emotional outlet.

So many girls use their boyfriend as their emotional vent. It’s okay to relieve some stress and talk about your day, but sometimes we go overboard. Instead of sharing the facts and directly explaining how we feel, we end up inflating the story as we go along to the point where we’re just “venting”.

Ladies, your man wants to support you. Guys know girls are emotional and they want to help. They’re fixers. But at some point, they shut down. If we are just a landslide of feelings, they can’t understand it all. They aren’t wired the same as us and they can’t sort through all those emotions the same way we can. It’s how God made them. It’s good to talk to our men about how we’re feeling about different things, but we need to do it in guy language. We need to filter it down a bit to be straightforward—share the facts and then how you felt. Guys are great, but save the venting for your girlfriends.

Sexual purity gets harder, not easier.

Real talk here. This was—and is—a huge one for me. It’s one thing to stay pure when you’ve been dating for two months and you’re not a super-affectionate person to begin with. But when you’ve been dating for two years, keeping those boundaries gets really tough.

It’s important to set boundaries before you break them. Whether your parents gave you a curfew or not, set one and stick to it. If you let your rules slide once, it will happen again and again. Just because you’re a Christian couple does not mean you don’t need rules. The sooner you have an honest discussion about your boundaries, the better. Yes, it might be awkward, but that’s so much better than waiting until you’ve already crossed your personal boundaries.

He appreciates it when you take the time to look good.

I am a very no-fuss person when it comes to my appearance. I like to look nice, but I’m all for practicality. Before William and I started dating, I didn’t wear makeup because I couldn’t be bothered. I started wearing more makeup after we started dating but I still mostly only wear it to church or other outings. It’s so tempting to just wear sweats and be comfortable once you’ve been with your guy for a while, but he really does appreciate it when you put in that extra effort for him.

Sometimes my youngest brother will ask me, “Why do you care how you look? You already have a boyfriend.” He has a point in that I’m not trying to attract other guys, but I think William is worth taking the extra time to look good. At the same time, there’s a big difference between feminine and sexy. We want to be valued for our true worth.

He might “get” you, but he can’t read your mind.

You might be with a guy who just “gets” you. He understands you and he can always tell when something’s wrong. Guys who are sensitive to us are real blessings. They are easy to talk to and you don’t always have to explain yourself. They just know.

However, this does not make them mind-readers. There have been times when William knows something’s wrong and asks me about it, and there have been other times when he has no idea. This means I have to tell him. And I need to be honest and straightforward and loving in the way I’m telling him, not manipulative and demanding.

Having a boyfriend does not mean you will never notice another guy.

If you think having a boyfriend is going to protect you from ever being attracted to another guy, I have bad news for you. You don’t just shut off physical attraction like that. You will never be completely protected from seeing other guys—even after marriage. Being in a dating relationship means committing to one person above others. It’s not wrong to notice other guys. We are, after all, wired to be attracted to guys. It becomes wrong when we are lusting after guys—your boyfriend included.

When I had been dating William for a while, sometimes I would notice other guys and then think, Emily! What’s wrong with you? You have a boyfriend. But I realized that I can’t simply stop myself from noticing guys. What I can control is what I do with those thoughts when I have them. Do I encourage them or take them captive? Our response is what makes the difference.

Infatuation doesn’t last, but love does.

There will be times when your feelings come and go. One day you might just be giddy with love for your significant other, and then the next day you might just be meh. This doesn’t mean you love him any less, it just means that some days we feel it more than others. We’re girls. Emotions change.

It’s like your relationship with God. Sometimes you feel so on fire and passionate about sharing God’s love, yet other times you feel more distant and quiet. It doesn’t mean you love God any less, it just means that we go through different seasons of life and we go through different seasons of emotions, too.

The reality is that true love is a choice—a choice to love even when the feelings aren’t there to motivate you. It’s okay to not have butterflies all the time. Love means choosing the other person over yourself when it’s less than convenient.

Those are some of the things I’ve learned since I started dating! I hope this list has been helpful to you if you are in a relationship or are considering dating. What do you wish you knew before you were in a relationship? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

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Being a True Encouragement

We all want to encourage our friends. But how exactly should we do that? Is there a "right" way to encourage others? Find out here!

We’ve all had those times when our friends are going through a really rough time or have a less-than-pleasurable experience coming up. They pour their hearts out to us and sometimes we just don’t know what to say. This world is no stranger to suffering. We’ve all experienced hard spots in our lives at one time or another.

As a sister in Christ, it can be so hard to know what to say. Just saying “It’s going to be okay” seems like so little. One of my friends once said, “People tell you it’s going to be okay. But how do you know that? How can you say that when you don’t really know if it’s going to be okay? Maybe it will never be okay.” I had to agree with her. We all want to help our friends, but giving them a hug and offering well-meaning advice just isn’t enough sometimes.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:11, it says:

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

As Christians, we know we are supposed to encourage and be encouraged. But how do we encourage? How do we truly speak to someone and “build one another up” in Christ.

Before I talk about how to encourage, a couple of words on how not to encourage.

Flattery.

Flattering people is not encouraging. Although we sometimes think we’re being nice or polite to people, flattery is actually a form of deception according to the Bible. Romans 16:17 – 18:

I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naïve.

Obviously, this verse is talking about flattery in the stronger sense of the word. What I’m talking about is over-complimenting. Complimenting is fine and a nice thing to do, but it must be sincere. Flattery is usually done to earn favour for yourself, rather than for the benefit of the other person.

Reason.

Telling people it’s going to be okay because things usually work themselves out isn’t usually very encouraging, but it can depend on the situation. Generally, if something sad or tragic has happened, telling someone that time heals all wounds isn’t going to help. Saying something along the lines of, “things can only get better” may be reasonable, but not always true and not truly encouraging. If someone is really hurting, that’s usually the last thing they want to hear.

So what is real encouragement? Here are five ways to encourage each other.

Be a witness.

One way to encourage others is to share with them what Christ has done for you. I have had a a few opportunities to do this. When I was fourteen, my ten-year-old brother was diagnosed with leukemia. Of course, this was really hard on the whole family, but now I’m able to share how God stayed near to me through the whole experience and how He came through. (My brother has now been cancer-free for three years since finishing treatment!)

Remember, although you may be going through a really rough time, God is bigger. Even if you can’t feel Him right now, He is there if you cry out to Him. And He does come through. Every time.

Share your faith.

And by “faith”, I mean the actual faith—the mustard seed kind, not religion. So what I mean here is remind other Christians about what they believe and what you believe. God is powerful, and we can trust Him. Trials test our faith and God will reward the faithful. Sometimes, we run low on faith. Telling someone to get it together is not going to help. We need to be strong for our friends and add to their faith when it’s running low. Seeing other people’s faith often encourages us in our own. Be that other person to someone.

…that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. (Romans 1:12)

Prayer.

What greater way to encourage someone than through prayer? Ask the ultimate Encourager to be near to them in the darkest moments. Pray with people, too. I always feel so encouraged after praying with a close friend. Not only does it remind you that you’re not alone in this, but that you’re together in Christ.

Being together.

Hebrews 10:24 – 25 says this:

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

Sometimes we just need togetherness. Fellowshipping (i.e. hanging out) with other Christians can be a huge encouragement. Relationships are built and in a corporate setting, worship itself is an encouragement. Sometimes we just need to take a step back and remind ourselves who’s in control of everything and that He loves us.

Finally, love.

Know that you are loved and then go love others. Love requires self-sacrificing service, and when we serve others, we are an encouragement to them. We show Christ’s love and remind our friends how much they are loved by Christ.

…that their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God’s mystery, which is Christ… (Colossians 2:2)

Those are my thoughts on how to be an encouragement to others. What are some ways that you have been encouraged? Let me know!

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Confessions of a Problem-Fixer

As women, we often want to help others. But what about when our help isn't wanted? Is it possible to help someone TOO much? Click here to find out!

I’m the oldest in my family, with two younger brothers. Naturally, this meant I could boss them around. It’s my birthright, just like being a pest in the youngest child’s birthright. I’m not sure what the middle child’s birthright is; though in our family, the middle child has a lot of freedom to just say what he thinks, since no one listens anyway. (Sorry, bro. That’s just the way it is. But we still love you.)

Anyway, since I was the older sister, I always knew best. I was the teacher when we played school, the mom when we played house, and the designer when we played Lego. And when something went wrong, I also knew the best thing to fix the problem. I loved helping—saving people. I was the girl for the job.

But then something weird happened. My brothers didn’t want my help. And not in the “I’m-a-man-now” way, but they just didn’t want help. I could have the most logical solution and eagerly offer it, but they would just tell me to stop talking. (Literally.) I didn’t understand. I was being nice! They didn’t even have to ask me, I just did it because I was trying to help.

I just shrugged it off as them being dumb (and maybe I was a bit bossy in the delivering of that help). But as I got older, I realized that it’s okay if people don’t want your help. It doesn’t always mean that you give bad advice. You could have the best solution and people still want to do it themselves. And that’s okay. (Side note: We need to be careful not to become control freaks, ladies. But that’s not what this post is about.)

While wanting to help others is a good desire (provided your motives are good) is a good thing, it can have its own set of problems. And these problems have very little to do with the other person and a lot to do with you

This is a bit different for guys than girls, but girls are emotional creatures. How many of us have had friends that are always upset about something? You know, the ones who you go to hang out with and end up being their counselor…every time you see them. I mean, we all have difficult seasons of life and just need someone to talk to, but there are some people who are always down about something, from boys to their job to the weather to that bad prof. So, naturally—being girls—we jump right in and help our friends. We listen while they pour out their hearts, offer a solution and talk the issue to death three times over. This is pretty standard female behaviour, and it’s a good thing to listen to and support our friends.

But if we’re not careful, we can take on others’ problems. This can be really dangerous.

I tried it once. I had a friend who talked to me a lot and without meaning to, I took on every one of her day-to-day problems and it drained me. I was emotionally exhausted, stressed, and not myself at all. She became the focus of my life in many ways. I felt emotionally responsible for making sure she was happy.

I even had a Bible verse to back me up:

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (…) Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else, for each one should carry his own load. (Gal. 6:2, 4 & 5)

This was the passage that I turned to. This is why I took on others’ burdens. I did this out of love, which is the crazy part. I wanted to be there for my friend. Some people told me to just stop talking to her, but I just didn’t feel right about that. Aren’t Christians called to show sacrificial love?

My study Bible had an interesting footnote regarding those verses. It says the following:

Burdens. I.e., the excess burdens that we need to share with one another, in contrast to the load (different Greek word) in verse 5, which means the normal amount each must carry for himself. (…)

So basically, as one friend of mine put it, each person has two kinds of burdens. First, there’s the backpack. Everyone has a backpack—daily responsibilities, temptations and issues. Then, in different seasons of our lives, we sometimes have boulders. Boulders are the things we need support for; the things we can’t handle on our own. Things like being diagnosed with cancer or a loved one passing away. It’s a good thing to help each other with the boulders (burdens). It’s not okay to take someone’s backpack (loads).

One night I was doing what I should have done long before my emotional stress got to this point: I prayed about it. Not just for my friend, but also for me. I was just honest with God. “God, I am not benefiting at all from this friendship, which is okay. But it’s more than that. I am completely drained by this friendship and I know it’s not healthy. But I still need to show her love! I want to make her happy. I can’t just stop being her friend because that isn’t love, but I can’t continue on like this.”

Well, God answered. He revealed to me that wanting to make people happy is a good thing. But when you making people happy means that you no longer can make God happy or making God happy takes a back seat to making people happy, there’s an issue.

It’s okay to want to make everyone around you happy, but only when making God happy still comes first.

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I had been carrying my friend’s backpack when I was only called to be helping her with her boulders. I’m not saying that if people have heavy backpacks we should tell them to get over it and pull themselves up by their bootstraps. We can help without taking their load by praying for them. I tried to help my friend, but the truth is, I can’t help her with her backpack. It’s hers. The only person who can help her with her backpack is God.

When I realized this, it was like all the responsibility had fallen off my shoulders. I was relieved. I gave Christ her backpack and focused on my own—putting Christ back into his place in my life. Once I did this, I was able to enjoy healthier friendships with everyone in my life.

Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ (Matt. 22:37 – 39)

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